Why are some people more likable?

How to be more likable by Dr. G with 480Wellness.com

People are social beings. People who have rich social lives find themselves exchanging ideas, spending time more meaningfully and have a lot more fun. Sociability also leads to improved  self-esteem and confidence.  Whether you are introverted or extroverted,  everyone needs healthy social lives to form meaningful relationships and friendships, we would like to offer 10 ways to improve your likability.

1.) If you are the kind of person who likes to talk a lot, talk about the other person. Nobody likes hearing someone boast or brag about themselves. It is utterly, one of the most avoidable and annoying habits that will send people running away from you. If you are someone who is outgoing, extroverted, and enjoys to talk, do whatever you can to talk about the people you are with. Ask questions, congratulate and compliment. Be genuinely interested in the other person. For example, find something about the other person and compliment them. Ask them where they got their hair done or what their favorite app is on their iPhone.

2.) Be interested and be genuine. When you are around other people, do whatever you can to put yourself in their shoes. Try to live in their experience. People are very good at picking up frauds and if your interaction is not sincere, you will be found out sooner or later.

3.) Silence your phone and make the person your with feel like a million bucks. When you meet somebody for the first time, be there in the moment with them. If your phone rings, put it away. If your companion says, “you can take that” simply let them know that you value your time with them and would rather call back. Simple gestures making longstanding impressions!

4.) Smile, Laugh and be yourself. Make a habit of demonstrating positivity! If someone says they like roast-beef sandwiches and you hate roast-beef sandwiches, try to restrain yourself from making those negative comments. Instead of saying, “I hate roast-beef sandwiches,” say something like, “do you put something on it that makes it taste so good?”

5.) Remember people’s names. This is probably one of the simplest and most neglected tip that will let you be well liked. One of the most well liked and powerful words in our language is our own name. When you meet somebody for the first time, do everything in your power to make sure you remember their name. Say it over and over again in your mind 20 times. Ask them to repeat their name or ask for a clarification about the spelling if it’s appropriate to do so. When you make a habit of doing this with one person, you will be able to do it with a group of people and you will better show people how likable you are. Remember names, spouses names, and their children’s names! When you see them again ask, “so how is Theresa doing?”

6.) Don’t complain. Never ever ever complain. If something bothers you, simply brush it off and say, ‘well I guess we have a new challenge, let’s figure it out.’

7.) Personal Hygiene. Nobody likes people who smell. Bad breath, dirty or soiled clothes, and smelly feet are all alarms to get the hell out. I’m not saying to lather yourself in perfume or cologne, but take some basic steps to make sure your personal hygiene is acceptable.

8.) Do not curse. Unless you are in the confines of your closest friends and confidants, cursing is a major turn off. We are not 15 anymore. Every time you find yourself cursing, put a dime into a jar. At the end of a month, take that jar to a charity and let them know you are donating it because you care about their cause. People will have many ways of liking you then and you may even lose a bad habit along the way.

9.) Never make excuses. Remember the last time you asked for anything and the person told you that it wasn’t their job? The best customer service representatives will always do everything they can to meet and exceed your expectations. If you have made a mistake, even in the least bit, own up to it and take the steps necessary so that it won’t happen again. Making excuses will only highlight your undependability, and nobody likes that.

10.) Never make hateful statements. Live a life where all living beings are created equal. It baffles me when people make homophobic statements, anti-semitic statements, racist comments or anything else along these entirely preventable lines. Darkness cannot be cured by darkness. Trust me, life will become lighter and you will become happier. Spend your time playing with puppies or cooing with babies. Who doesn’t like that?

Practice these habits and quick tips. For every time you are able to wipe out a negative habit with a positive one, pamper yourself with praise. Practice makes perfect! Good luck!

If you struggle with any of these and would like some advice on how to improve, we are happy to help! Give us a call, 480-788-6070 or learn more here.